She Is Here™
Formerly titled 'Let's Talk People-Pleasing! with Charlotte Bailey' - She Is Here™ is a podcast for women who feel they're 'too much' too sensitive, too emotional, too dramatic....and never quite enough.
Maybe you’ve read the self-help books, listened to the personal development podcasts, or previously had therapy. You understand your patterns — but something still hasn’t shifted. You get it… but you don’t always feel it.
That’s because insight alone isn’t always enough.
Patterns like people-pleasing, overthinking, perfectionism, masking, anxiety, and self-doubt aren’t mindset failures. They’re intelligent survival responses shaped by trauma, attachment, conditioning, relationships, and the environments we’ve had to navigate.
I’m Charlotte Bailey, an accredited trauma-informed psychotherapist, speaker, and spoken-word poet. Through psychology, neuroscience, lived experience, and poetry, She Is Here™ explores the missing piece mainstream self-help often skips: safety - in your nervous system and in your world.
This isn’t about forcing confidence or becoming someone new. It’s about reconnecting with the parts of yourself that learned to shrink, hide or adapt, remembering who you were before you were taught to be less - and learning how to feel safe enough to be seen.
Come join me on instagram and feel free to DM me with any questions or subjects you'd like me to cover : https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/
Access free resources (People-Pleasing Quiz-Based Webinar & Video Visibility Confidence Toolkit) & find out more about me via my website: https://www.charlotte-bailey.com/
She Is Here™
People-Pleasing in the Bedroom: Let’s Talk About Sex | Ep 45
A lot of people hadn’t realised I’m trained in Psychosexual Therapy and Sex and Porn ‘Addiction’ Counselling, and when I recently shared a post talking about my credentials, I was asked to do an episode on the subject of people-pleasing and sex.
And I’m really glad they asked, because it’s a topic that doesn’t get spoken about enough — and on reflection, I’m guilty of that too! Yet if you’re a people-pleaser and often say yes when you want to say no, struggle to express how you really feel or what you want, and strive to make everyone else happy — often at the expense of your own happiness — then of course people-pleasing is likely to show up when it comes to sex
In this episode, I chat about:
- The common ways people-pleasing shows up in your thoughts, feelings, body, and behaviour.
- Where sexual people-pleasing comes from and why it might continue to show up in the bedroom.
It’s my hope that this episode helps you feel less alone with any struggles or difficulties you have around this topic — and gives you hope that things don’t have to stay this way.
Look out for a second part to this episode in the near future, when I’ll be joined by a fellow psychosexual therapist to discuss more practical ways to address these difficulties, how to communicate your preferences, wants, and needs (and the things you don’t want!), and how to reconnect with your sexual self too.
I hope you find this helpful — let me know what you think over on Instagram.
Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and relatable content and feel free to DM me any subjects you'd like me to cover: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/
Visit my website for more information, FREE resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlotte-bailey.com/