She Is Here™
Formerly titled 'Let's Talk People-Pleasing! with Charlotte Bailey' - She Is Here™ is a podcast for women who feel they're 'too much' too sensitive, too emotional, too dramatic....and never quite enough.
Maybe you’ve read the self-help books, listened to the personal development podcasts, or previously had therapy. You understand your patterns — but something still hasn’t shifted. You get it… but you don’t always feel it.
That’s because insight alone isn’t always enough.
Patterns like people-pleasing, overthinking, perfectionism, masking, anxiety, and self-doubt aren’t mindset failures. They’re intelligent survival responses shaped by trauma, attachment, conditioning, relationships, and the environments we’ve had to navigate.
I’m Charlotte Bailey, an accredited trauma-informed psychotherapist, speaker, and spoken-word poet. Through psychology, neuroscience, lived experience, and poetry, She Is Here™ explores the missing piece mainstream self-help often skips: safety - in your nervous system and in your world.
This isn’t about forcing confidence or becoming someone new. It’s about reconnecting with the parts of yourself that learned to shrink, hide or adapt, remembering who you were before you were taught to be less - and learning how to feel safe enough to be seen.
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Access free resources (People-Pleasing Quiz-Based Webinar & Video Visibility Confidence Toolkit) & find out more about me via my website: https://www.charlotte-bailey.com/
She Is Here™
Why Shame Fuels People-Pleasing - and How to Break the Cycle | Ep 48
Do you often put everyone else’s needs before your own - and feel bad if you don’t?
In this episode, I’m joined by Kay from Place to Talk Therapy Practice to explore the deep connection between shame and people-pleasing. We talk about how shame begins, how it shows up in everyday life, and why it can feel so hard to break free from old patterns.
Kay shares her personal experience of living with shame, from body image struggles to those early messages we pick up about who we need to be in order to be accepted and loved. Kay explains:
- The difference between guilt and shame - and why shame runs so deep.
- How childhood experiences and cultural expectations shape people-pleasing.
- Gentle ways to notice and challenge shame-fuelled thoughts.
- What self-honour is and why it is the antidote to shame.
- First steps you can take to set boundaries and put your needs back on the table.
You can find out more about Kay and her practice at https://www.placetotalktherapies.co.uk/
Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and relatable content and feel free to DM me any subjects you'd like me to cover: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/
Visit my website for more information, FREE resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlotte-bailey.com/