She Is Here™
Formerly titled 'Let's Talk People-Pleasing! with Charlotte Bailey' - She Is Here™ is a podcast for women who feel they're 'too much' too sensitive, too emotional, too dramatic....and never quite enough.
Maybe you’ve read the self-help books, listened to the personal development podcasts, or previously had therapy. You understand your patterns — but something still hasn’t shifted. You get it… but you don’t always feel it.
That’s because insight alone isn’t always enough.
Patterns like people-pleasing, overthinking, perfectionism, masking, anxiety, and self-doubt aren’t mindset failures. They’re intelligent survival responses shaped by trauma, attachment, conditioning, relationships, and the environments we’ve had to navigate.
I’m Charlotte Bailey, an accredited trauma-informed psychotherapist, speaker, and spoken-word poet. Through psychology, neuroscience, lived experience, and poetry, She Is Here™ explores the missing piece mainstream self-help often skips: safety - in your nervous system and in your world.
This isn’t about forcing confidence or becoming someone new. It’s about reconnecting with the parts of yourself that learned to shrink, hide or adapt, remembering who you were before you were taught to be less - and learning how to feel safe enough to be seen.
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She Is Here™
Why Do I Feel So Guilty for Saying No? (And What It Really Means) | Ep 50
If you’re a people-pleaser then chances are that on the rare occasion you do say “no” to someone, cancel plans, or set a boundary — you find yourself feeling guilty.
In this episode I talk about how guilt doesn’t always mean you’ve done something wrong. Often, it shows up because you’ve broken an internalised rule you’ve been carrying for years — like “I must keep everyone happy” or “Putting myself first is selfish.”
This episode includes:
Why guilt feels so intense when you say no or prioritise yourself
How to reframe guilt so you can see it as a sign of growth, not wrongdoing
A guided reflection exercise to help you uncover the root of your guilt and begin reframing it
If this episode helps you, please share it with someone who needs to hear it - and stay tuned for the next episode, where we’ll explore practical strategies to rewrite those old rules for good.
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